the art of self relating

redefine your self relationship
21 days to re-code
& re-calibrate
yourself to
deep, delicious, &
empowering self love

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self lover: [noun] a person who is madly, deeply, deliciously committed & devoted to loving themselves

(& it turns them the fuck on)


Forget the "fluffly" mainstream "self love" - have a taste of the real stuff.

The stuff that lasts. Re-charge your self-relationship, drop deeply into your body, tickle yourself with pleasure, & anchor back into knowing you are worthy AF of your love. Commit to YOU with intention and devotion

over 21 sweet and potent days.

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this is for you're a FUCK YES to


turning on your pleasure

more pussy & body worship

owning your MF power

boosting your body confidence

embodying your oh-so-sexy feminine essence

unravelling some of that sticky shame

building up a toolbox of daily practices


self love is a state that comes with practice

This course is to support the women who say "I don't have time", those who feel the guilty "I wish I could but...". Enough. I'm calling you out

and calling you in, with love. Because your self relationship is so important.

We're soooo good at making excuses that keep us disconnected from our bodies, from our feelings of "deservingness" & from actually deepening into a relationship with ourselves, right?? So no more excuses. It has to start with you. Of believing you are inherently worthy of your own time, your own devotion, your own worship, your own energy,

your own pleasure.


If you want your relationship / confidence / self expression / pleasure / [fill in the blank] to change - it has to start with YOU, based on your strong AF foundation of self lovership.


So I've created a delicious deep yet bite-size 21 day container to commit to your self love, your sensuality, your expression, and feminine embodiment.

And don't tell me you don't have 21 days?


a teaser of what's inside:









& more....


I dare you to commit to 21 days of

showing up 100% for you (just like you would for someone else)

exploring your sexual and sensual expressions

getting to know your body better, inside & out

creating new boundaries

being unapologetic & learning what you like

YOU, baby! YOU!


Friends at the Beach

who is this course for?

ANYONE! Any fem being who desires to commit to their self lovership.

Anyone who desires to learn - and practice - practices that will connect them more deeply to themselves. Anyone who is ready for a re-boot. Anyone who wants accountability & space holding, witnessing and love and support along the way. Anyone who feels a bit rusty, or "it's been a while" since they did anything for themselves. Anyone who feels "this is self-indulgent" (because my God is it not). Anyone who wants to meet themselves in the mirror and peel back the patterns to connect deeply to their true naked essence. Anyone who is sick of feeling shitty about themselves. Anyone who wants more pleasure in their lives. Anyone who wants to start a new habit. Anyone who is curious to learn themselves better. Anyone who wants to deepen into the feminine. Anyone who wants to improve their self relationship.

Anyone who wants to make themselves number 1 and stick to it for-e-ver.

Anyone, everyone, You.

SELF LOVER includes

delicious & empowering practices drip fed for 21 days

your own personal portal on Teachable

BONUS Extras including guest sessions

access to content forever to keep practicing

library of playlists, worksheets, audio meditations, videos

the potency of the portal

This is a self-guided online course deliciously drip fed to you over 21 days.

And 21 days is all it takes.



Each each day you'll receive some form of practice, prompt, exercise, exploration, technique, that will take anything from 5 minutes to an hour - depending on how deep you want to go! - to guide you back into your body, your pleasure, your sensuality. Starting with the basics (because they hold some of the most important keys), to those a bit juicier & more elaborate.


This has been created for you all: the busy mama, the full-timer, the multipassionate babe, and I know that you can squeeze this in when you make the effort to. It's not laborious, it's luscious & it's bite-sized so that you can fit these practices in daily. This is how we meet and commit to our Self Lover. This is how shifts happen.


Lou, England
women's circle facilitator

"I’ve learnt soo much about myself, I’ve embodied so much more of my feminine nature. I’ve learnt to slow down in so many ways... but particularly in terms of pleasure... But most of all I’ve made a commitment to myself, to my needs, my pleasure, me first... always. That under no circumstances I will ever be a shitty lover to myself. Fiona is the most empowering and embodied teacher that speaks with such truth and power."

Kari, Australia
holistic therapist

"Your program gave me the space to really commit to myself and commit to my body and my practice and make space for exploration. I want to say a HUGE thank you for creating such an inspiring and transformational program. I didn’t realise how much I needed this work in my life and always felt like I had a pretty good self-love practice… but wow, who wants “pretty good” when you can have AMAZING!"

Laura, Canada

"Working with Fiona is literally priceless. I feel more connected to my body than ever before and it has been a long road to get here! I can confidently say now I am in tune with my sensual feminine aliveness, I have learned to listen to my body and I have adjusted my "baseline" to pleasure and I'm able to be in it every day. Honestly, just being in this woman's presence from day 1 will make you feel differently."


this is my self love story


I used to only really "get" the superficial fluffy self love stuff. I'd save quotes on Pinterest. I'd do the facepacks. I'd bathe in rose petalled baths listening to spa music. I'd go to bed early and tell myself sweet affirmations. Which was great. And... it wasn't really doing much long-term.


It wasn't penetrating deep enough. I didn't truly feel worthy of my own efforts still. Because I hadn't embodied it. That was the missing piece.

When I brought embodiment into the picture I had to go deep to unravel a lot that wasn't mine. Like many, I had inherited many "voices" that poisoned my own sense of what self love felt like. And so I have had my fair share of shitty self relating, self abusing, self abandoning, self denying. It was crap. For a long time. I had a history of hating my body, a tinge of Saviour, programmed Patriarchal voice of "there are better things to be doing" -

and a lot else.


So I slowly learnt practices, I did the self inquiry, I gazed at myself in the mirror everyday, shed a shit tonne of shame, I found some more places to hate & poke at, went back to the self-love / body connection basics, did some more work...


 Until I got to a point - now - where I can say my base line is "I love myself". Undeniably, 100%, in love with myself. And still yes, there are days that it can feel a little wobbly, but with the practices and deep knowing of my deservingness, I can steer myself back to the truth of "I love myself" always. Even if it takes a while, I always return.

And this is why I so want to support you my love, I want you to have what I know. I want you to have the tools & I want to hold you accountable & to create the space for you to use them. Whether you're already familiar with this but want a boost, whether you feel desperately behind and need a rope to pull you along, or whether this feels utterly foreign: you are all welcome to join the journey.

There is always room for more, deeper, and better.

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selfish is sacred

This is what this SELF LOVER journey is all about:


being in self relationship (you as your partner)

committing to your body & the feminine

being in & fed by pleasure

expressing your sensual & sexual essence

feeling worthy of love

returning to Sovereignty

reminding yourself of your own importance

“ME” is the only person we have control over, the only person who we are truly responsible for. So your relationship to yourself is your primary relationship ~ and if you desire to share yourself with anyone else, that’s a bonus. a secondary win.


You do not exist to fulfil someone else’s sense of completion as their “other half” so cultivate your wholeness - your self promise - first before you default to another.


Think about who else you give your endless attention, time, energy, love to? And how you may have built up some resentment along the way because guess who gets left behind?




If you are feeling this resentment seep into your partnerships, family life, or struggle with co-dependent patterns, this will support you my love.


Let's lovingly lay the foundations once more of your primary self relationship - which you may find are a little wobbly or entirely missing - which is what creates the disharmony projected & carried outwards.


your self-investment

It is my mission in life to help women reconnect to their bodies, to be in their Sovereignty, and to fall madly in love with themselves. And SELF LOVER is a vital step in that journey. I will be sharing with you my all time favourite and most potent practices to add to your toolbox to practice time and time again. Because committing to you as your primary relationship is everything. It is the foundation for all else.

Join today. Start anytime. It's yours for always.

21 days is all it takes.

You can do it.

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this is 100% for you if you're like

I feel like I never have time for "self love" stuff

pleasure? huh?

I need a schedule otherwise it won't get done

there are a million other things I "should" be doing​

self love feels like a wishy-washy thing

me & my pussy are having a long distance relationship

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What type of body / sexuality do you cater to?

This journey is designed for anyone (with any body!) who identifies as a woman & with the feminine as their core essence, including non-binary and transgender babes, regardless of sexual preference or orientation. The language and practices I will be sharing are directed towards an anatomically female body (& I will be using terms like pussy) so please sub out words to suit and support the journey your are on or expression you identify with.

Is there a start date?

This is a self guided online course that you can start at any time. When you complete your payment here, you'll be sent a link to join the Teachable portal where the content is held and you can begin when you desire. Once you start, the practices will be drip fed to you daily to do at home over 21 days, which you have access always. (It did premiere live in August).

How much time do I need to commit to the program?

I always say whatever you put in, you get out! This is only 21 days and that is the length of time it takes to create a habit. It's been designed for those who feel they are time poor, so the practices will be anywhere from 15 minutes to an hour, of course you can go for more... depending on how deep you want to take them. Personally, the more you invest the time & energy to this journey, the bigger the shifts & the more you'll get out of it.

Can I join from outside the UK?

Absolutely! This is a virtual program, meaning you can join from anywhere in the world.